After a brief hiatus, I’m so happy that our series is back and this time with a few new (familiar) faces. This series has touched so many lives and it’s so comforting to see that so many of you are sharing this motherhood journey with me. For this month’s topic, we were asked “what has your mother taught you?” Seems like a simple enough question but it the answer is something that I think we’re constantly learning.
In life, you’re always better at something if you have a great mentor to show you the way. This is even truer when it comes to mothering. Not only do you learn what to do from your mother, you also learn what not to do.
Let’s face it. No one’s perfect, and mothers are no exception. It’s only when you have a baby of your own you begin do to truly realize all that your mother really did for you, things you never thought about.
Being a good mother takes patience, caring, and sacrifice. When Madelyn was born, my whole world changed. My life suddenly had a new purpose and it was all about her; all about their needs, making her happy, and raising her well. Suddenly, I found myself babying her in ways that my mom used to baby me. Ways that use to annoy me so much growing up. I finally understood my mom’s purpose.
Her ways were not always without flaw and we went through some rough patches in my teenage years. Looking back, I feel like we just couldn’t empathizs with each other, but as a mother to a pre-teen my self, I can say that it finally all makes sense.
Aside from teaching me how to cook, do laundry, and instilling a strong work ethic in me (I worked for our family business for over 10 years), one of the most important things that I learned from my mother was the importance of sacrifice.
Many of you may already know that I immigrated here by refugee boat from Vietnam with my parents when I was 3 years old. My parents took a huge risk to try and build a better future for our family by escaping a communist country at the end of a war. A decision led by my mother.
When we got to America, my parents got jobs that had them working 12-14 hours a day 6-7 days a week. They carried on this schedule for 20 years just to make sure that they did everything that they could to make Our journey worth it.
This journey that we took together has taught me that being a mother requires sacrifice. Not just the give-your-kid-the-last-piece-of-cake kind of sacrifice. The kind that makes you give up comfort, security, contentment because you want more for your children. The kind of sacrifice that changes your child’s future and in turn, will change life for your children’s children. It’s a lesson that I could not have learned from anyone but my mother and for that, I’m forever grateful.
To read more about this month’s topic, click on the links below to see things from some of my fav mama’s perspective. Until next time! Xx